Velvet Elvis
I wanted to wear this coat or the black version today. I went at my closet trying to find something to match either one. I haven't liked it when I wore it with pants (at least not MY pants) so I went for a dress instead.
A few previous wearings of this dress.
I am having a bit of a hard time this time of year (I know aren't we all) I am increasingly hating how I look in pants. I almost exclusively own wideleg at this point because that is all that fits in the thighs. If it is too tight I just won't wear them. (I sit all day too) But I am one of the only ones at work who wears dresses and while that doesn't bother me oh 94% of the time the other 6% I wonder if it feels like I am trying to stand out. I am not. I used to. As a teen I wanted to be "different" (just like everyone else) but really I just kinda want to stick to myself and do my own thing but to be frank if you want to get ahead in my kind of environment fitting in is key. Just something I am thinking about. Also future career prospects. I deserve a career instead of a job.
Do you dress like your coworkers? HONESTLY do the ones who dress different, do you (un)intentionally single them out in your mind?
I know who cares what people think. yadda yadda but at the same time THIS IS MY LIVELY HOOD this is how I pay the damn bills.
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It can be tough to feel like the only one in your peer group who looks or dresses a certain way. I'm a pants-hater myself, and nearly everyone around me shuns skirts. But my office environment is super-accepting.
How do you look in leggings and tunics? Maybe you hate that look, but it's a pants alternative that works for me ...
My boobs are too big for tunics. If it fits them then it doesn't fit the rest of me.
at the same time, i think we all need to inject a little of ourselves into our outfits. if others comment, it is probably because they think you look amazing (which you DO!) and they wish they knew how to style themselves as well as you do.
own it, girl!
I think I'm in a unique situation where I work - its manufacturing and mostly guys, so 97% of the people who work here wear jeans, t-shirts, hoodies etc. The women who work here are older (40-60s) and in the office they mostly wear khakis and a simple top. I could wear jeans most days if I wanted to, but I'm mostly in my office and I dont see the front office set much so I figure I'll just wear what I want and as long as I'm not coming in dressed for the club I'm ok (that would violate our safety regs anyways, hah)
thank you. :)
I am hoping Annie pops up on here. She is a coworker who knows what is up!
Aw. It saddens me to hear a woman feel so unhappy about pants. I want you to find some really awesome ones! I also want them not to be widelegs, just to have something sleek and different. I would say maybe you could find some lovely slacks at Express. Their pants always make me feel pretty fine.
I don't have anything to offer in the dressing department though. I work at home half of the time and the other half is mainly with one other man and then a building full of people I hardly know. I make my own rules for how I dress because the building has a large variety of acceptable.
I am the only one here at work that dresses the way I do. But I like that I'm a bit different. although sometimes, it can be frustrating.
pants. i hate them right now. at least i hate mine. i'm in denial about the fact that my thighs and hips got bigger so it's an effort to pull them on every day.
Now, on dressing for work... at work it's only a handful of us. Mostly women, ranging from 30 to 60.
I could come to work in jeans and a t shirt everyday - except when I have to travel - but, I REFUSE to.
I know I can do better.
I think I stand out and there is nothing wrong in trying to look presentable.
Once my boss asked me if I was going to a party - I was wearing a black polka dot full skirt with matching top. At the moment it felt awkward but, you know what ... I rather be looked up to than down to...
p.s. I think you have fabulous legs.
Honestly sometimes I just get so brain-tired dealing with the attention or comments that I have basically been wearing ugly jeans and sweaters for like a week now. Putting on a dress and tights is comfier than my jeans and easier to put on in the morning, but if I'm tired or cranky I just put on jeans and a t-shirt because I don't feel like I have the brainpower to deal with being dressed nicer than that all day. I have to be in a good mood to face the comments and honestly I just haven't felt up to it lately.
I know they say "dress for the job you want" but sometimes I think dressing how I do hurts me. Like if I'm not in jeans and a wrinkly t-shirt, then I'm obviously trying to be better than everyone else. Or something.
I don't care what they think but I want respect. That is all that matters in the workplace to me. You can hate me but you better treat me with respect like I treat you.